My son who is making a fortune in motivational work just told me this is a book not only you'll want to read but you'll want to recommend to anyone you are helping in any field.

Great companion piece to any of the 'greats' books. Tony Robins etc etc etc Or a stand alone.

Covers a teritory often missed!

This collection of a woman's journey through incredible odds to achieve a level of serenity that she has achieved is amazing. The pains as a mother, the Universe ripping her son from her and all the pain involved, cut to the quick of my own personal pain with my own son. The poetic structure and flow swept me down stream and kept me going and going until the end, and I wanted more. An excellent choice for a guide post to one woman's well journaled path to serenity, It was all about the journey, and that is what good writing is all about. This book is timeless.

In "My Journey to Serenity," Kiki Hays Faktor explores the inner workings of the mind and heart as she draws her emotional line in the sand. Through the author's humor and thoughtful reveries she shows us how crucial boundaries are in human relations. The book's poetic format made the reading enjoyable and easily digestible. I found myself reading pages before I went to bed at night--as a reminder and a comfort.

Anyone who aspires to be a successful entrepreneur will find this book is definitely a "must read." From cover to cover, it is full of useful frameworks and wonderful quotes from some of the most successful women entrepreneurs in America. Through careful distillation of focused interviews, Dorothy Perrin Moore has captured the essence of the best advice these savvy business women have to offer.

A favorite chapter is the one on networking. It provides great examples of how these women entrepreneurs have gone about building the networks of contacts that have been a key to their success. The chapter on leadership offers terrific insight into developing an effective leadership style and making the transition to leader. The chapter on negotiation provides crucial advice about critical bargaining skills. There is much more to love in this insightful book.

The anecdotes and quotes are integrated throughout, making this book a particularly fascinating read for anyone involved in the business world.

Dorothy Moore"s Carerrpreneurs is a must read for women who want to succeed in today's business world. Its clear format and well organized style makes it a pleasure to read. I especially liked the self-assessment tool. I'm a Human Resource Consultant for a major corporation and would recommend this book to women at all stages of their careers. I found the practical wisdom expressed in these successful women's own words to be enlightening and inspirational. A great read!

I read Dr. Moore's book a year ago as I started my business as a female entrepreneur, and now a year later I re-read it- and find all the lessons even more relevant and helpful. Any woman considering starting her own business should read this book several times. I have learned quite a bit over the last year, and Dr. Moore's book tremendously helped reduce my learning curve (not that it's been easy).

As a self- employed consultant focusing on women's leadership, I have found especially useful the author's pointers on negotiation, how to invest my time, and how to make the most of my networking resources. Her real-life examples and advice from successful female entrepreneurs and their stories is most inspiring and a continuing source of strength for me. My business has continued to grow, and I truly appreciate the opportunity to have learned from the other entrepreneurial women in this book.

and I've read quite a few! "Parents in Charge" approaches discipline in a positive and creative way in which both parent and child are left with a good experience. This book taught me about not just my child's behavioral issues ... but also my own. This is a gold mine of information that every parent (of toddler to teens) should read and own.

I am so impressed with this book. I have only made it to the 4th chapter and I have learned detailed information on parenting a controlling behaviors. I have many folded corners for easy future reference. Explanations of how to problem solve different situations are practical and information on how children learn and process is indespensible.
I would not hesitate to buy this for a shower gift. I will not part with my copy (I have more to learn).

Lori Miller
Mom of twins, in need of all the help out there

This book hits the nail on the head. Great, practical advice and insight, especially into how our children's minds work at different stages, what they can and can't comprehend, etc. Also, terrific insights on what we bring to parenting from our pasts and how to recognize and adjust or eliminate that to make our own parenting more effective. I found myself highlighting nearly half the book. I rarely recommend books, but have suggested this one to every parent I know.

Now in a thoroughly updated and revised sixth edition, Boundary Waters Canoe Area: Western Region continues to be the definitive guide for outdoor enthusiasts seeking to enjoy a land of beautiful landscapes and wildlife. Veteran travel writer and outdoorsman Robert Beymer provides details on 27 entry points in the western part of the Boundary Waters Canoe Area and includes important information on the length of time needed to complete each trip, distances and difficulty of each trip, number of lakes, rivers and portages encountered; and the maps required. Boundary Waters Canoe Area: Western Region is enhanced with a four-color pullout map and is a "must" for canoeists, anglers, vacationers, and hunters seeking to enjoy what this unique and remarkable country have to offer.

This is a great book to start your plans for a trip into the Boundary Waters. There are suggested routes for every entry point in the western region and whether you use the suggested route or not it's a great place to start!

I have canoe camped in the BWCA since 1971 and have found previous editions of this guide essential for my trip planning. This well-written, newly-revised edition is even better. It contains the latest information on obtaining a permit for entry into the area as well as general information regarding the destructive storm that swept through the BWCA on July 4, 1999. The 2000 edition is slightly larger in size and with bigger print is easier to read. It is also about 70 pages longer than the previous book. The author has changed the format of the route numbers to better correspond to the entry points, making it easier to relate the two. There are updated photos throughout the book and some route recommendations have been changed. This edition is full of information to make your trip planning into the western region of the BWCA easy. It allows you to choose routes based on your physical ability (easy to rugged), fishing desires (it lists type of fish in 185 western region lakes), scenery (waterfalls, pictographs), time constraints (suggested routes for over 50 2-8 day trips), etc. It tells you how to reach each entry point and one of my favorite statistics, the popularity rank of each entry point (I like to find solitude as quickly as possible). This is trip planning guide, and does not provide detailed camping "how to" information, although the author refers you to reliable books on this subject. I recommend it and am planning to purchase the revised eastern region edition as soon as it is available.

A very interesting book. Particularly interesting was the description of the difficulties (creative and otherwise) experienced by the architect during the building of the Vietnam Memorial. I was especially drawn to the architect's ambivalence with regard to the seemingly desperate determination (exhibited by politicians especially) that the powerful non-iconographic representational force of the monument be adulterated by the addition of traditional iconography (the three soldiers and the nurses). I think that many who have visited the Memorial will agree that it's power is only reduced by the statues that now bookend it. Still, the architect's vision carries the day--a fitting tribute to her creativity.

This book is a fascinating look into the mind of Maya Lin. It describes her intimate thoughts regarding the design of her most important works, how she develops the designs, and what they mean to her. It is written in a very accessible style and is a joy to read.

Maya Lin's "Boundaries" is much like her three-dimensional creations - austere, at once both subtle and direct, outwardly detached, and ultimately effective in evoking a deep emotional response from within the beholder rather than imposing an exterior sentiment. Lin, of course, first came to prominence two decades ago when, as an undergraduate architecture student, she won the prestigious design competition for the Vietnam Veterans Memorial on the Mall in Washington, D.C. Her concept, popularly known as "The Wall," was fiercely criticized at that time for its radical departure from traditional memorial designs, yet from its unveiling in 1982 the Vietnam Veterans Memorial has been accorded widespread recognition for its profound aptness and - there is no better word - genius. Although Lin's work since that remarkable debut has been on a smaller physical scale, it continues to follow a line of imaginative external simplicity in use of shape and space, covertly deceptive in masking emotional complexity beneath. The title of the book is meant to express Lin's view that she and her creations inhabit the boundary between distinctly different qualities - architecture-art, natural-urban, inside-outside, Asian-American - simultaneously being neither and both.

"Boundaries" is not an autobiography. Maya Lin speaks through her architecture and her sculptures, and this book unwaveringly focuses upon that work and the creative process behind it. While the photographs in the volume are effective in presenting a broad impression of design and form, the real pictures are those drawn by Lin's words. For a visual artist, she has a rare appreciation of verbal power and substance. In fact, Maya Lin regards words as a vital basis for her designs, the reflection of her own background: her father was a ceramist and her mother a poet. As a physical object, the book itself has purposely been given a unique character to fittingly express Lin's artistic vision, occupying the boundary between "art book" and "reading book". The text literally begins on the inside front cover and spans the entirety of the volume, ending only on the inside back cover. Even the jacket has been incorporated as a harmonious, integral component of the whole. Like Lin's creations erected in public spaces and those fashioned in her studio, "Boundaries" is an exquisite embodiment of a meeting between restraint and stimulation.

Living in a country like Israel, which is beset by fateful ongoing conflicts from within and without, one is torn between impulses of appeasement and revenge, diplomacy and force, empathy and despair. A particularly difficult dilemma arises when dealing with hate-and-violence rhetoric against the Other - rhetoric which, ipso facto, challenges the selfsame democratic system that allows it to exist in the first place. It is this "catch of democracy" that Raphael Cohen-Almagor examines in The Boundaries of Liberty and Tolerance: the Struggle Against Kahanism in Israel. As a layperson in the disciplines upon which he draws - philosophy, jurisprudence, political science - I approached the book with some trepidation. Much to my relief, though, I found that it to be reader-friendly yet extremely thorough in attempting to delineate the boundaries of liberty and tolerance in a democracy.

From the outset, the decision to allow a racist demagogue like Kahane to run for a seat in the Israeli legislature raised ethical issues of the most troubling kind. The decision to revoke that privilege was no less troubling: as they fought to have Kahanism outlawed, advocates of tolerance and democracy came under bitter attack for defying the very principle which they claimed to support. The book provides a reasoned, thoughtful and comprehensive explanation of the ethical questions underlying this problematic position. And as we know only too well, no country is immune from such questions; i.e. from the emergence of would-be political parties brandishing blatantly racist or xenophobic slogans, or advocating blatantly racist or xenophobic measures. The analysis set forth in the book examines the most sensitive implications of such a development, particularly the need to reconcile the sacrosanct principles of freedom of speech, on the one hand, with the obligation to stem any tangible threat to democracy, on the other. In trying to gain a better understanding of this complex paradox, I found Cohen-Almagor's lucid description of the distinction between freedom of expression, per se, and infringements of the Harm and Offense Principles particularly enlightening.

I too believe, like the author (and indeed, who doesn't?), in the solution outlined in Epilogue - education - as the ultimate means of delegitimizing and eventually eradicating racist politics. And yet, while pursuing the educational route, it also behooves us to continue grappling with the excruciating moral and legal dilemmas which these politics force upon us. I would heartily recommend Cohen-Almagor's book as a quintessential case study, capable of shedding light on one of the most problematic challenges to the democratic system.

Raphael Cohen-Almagor maps the course of the struggle against Meir Kahane in the Israeli courts and legislature. But he places it firmly in the context of the traditional controversy over the limits of toleration, providing us with a rigorous examination of the damage principle as it applies to speech and expression. He forces us to face the question why, if we refuse to tolerate the damage done by thefts, assault, fraud or murder, we should tolerate the potential damage that can be brought about by aggressive or violent speech. His work blends together political philosophy, contemporary history, and constitutional theory. It deserves the close attention of students of all three disciplines. But it should fascinate and provoke also all those who wish to confront what is probably the principal dilemma of the modern democratic practice.

As long as men and women strive to civilize their society the problem of tolerance will remain, because the urge toward intolerance will not go away. The achievement of Dr. Cohen-Almagor's work is that it adds to our knowledge and awareness of this central problem of politics. His arguments are made in the context of classical liberal thought, of practical politics, and of jurisprudence.

I love this book more than any others, and those thousands of others include: Anna Karenina, War and Peace, all of Michener (sorry James!), Faulkner, Hemingway, and Steinbeck. Even more than I loved Moby Dick. I believe that Raintree County is the greatest American Novel, and it would be hard to dissuade me. But you also have to read Shade of a Raintree when done, to keep the saga going

When averring that Raintree County is such a "Good" book, I find myself searching for words to accurately convey my meaning. The lyrical gift of Mr. Lockridge is "good," though not great as is the case with the brilliant Thomas Wolfe, the American novelist his writing most resembles. The story, complete with flashbacks, is engaging through all its over 1,000 pages. The philosophical sections are good as well, and the "Perfesser" Stiles is one of the most comically and wittily astute Menckenesque characters in all of American fiction.

One thing that I certainly do NOT mean by "good" is that the book is some sort of sentimental whitewash of American history and archetypal American characters. They are presented here in all their selfishness, avarice and mean-spiritedness. Yet, the novel ultimately has such a Whitmanesque all-embracing quality that these human traits dissolve into the rich tapestry of the story, which I found a page-turner despite its length.

Ultimately, the novel of which this book most reminds me is not an American, or even English, one at all. It is Tolstoy's War And Peace. These books both narrate the human capacity for evil and good, for love and hate, the chaos caused by the greatest war either of the two countries had fought at the time, the enduring value of friendship, all spread out over a vast panorama of intricate relations. In short, Raintree County is America's most epic novel: Not the greatest perhaps, but the most epic.

But there's something more: At one point in the book (p. 934 in my edition) Shawnessy reflects that, "A human life had a dimension that wasn't perfectly understood." Through reading this book, one somehow comes away with the feeling that one has at least brushed against the boundaries of this mysterious dimension.---No small feat, this.

On November 11, 1998 I wrote a review of Ross Lockridge's son's book: "In The Shade of the Raintree," that said much that could be added to advantage to my review of "Raintree County" itself.

Accordingly, I am doing a second review of "Raintree County." It is relevant in that it is also written in the light of several other reviews that followed mine and a couple that preceded it that had not been posted for some reason when I wrote my initial review. (I would love to think I was the catalyst for getting this remarkable book at least a little of the attention it deserves.) I am happy to see a near consensus in the reviews now appearing here about a couple of things: (1) that this book should be covered in Lit. Courses and (2) that it is indeed recognized by at least an elite, as that fabled literary phenomenon: "The Great American Novel."

I was and am immensely impressed by a writer like Ross Lockridge, Jr., who could craft a thousand plus page novel that is more of a lyric poem. Yet, at the time of its publication, some reviewers lightly passed it over as prolix or superficial, notably competing author Hamilton Basso, whose review, one suspects, might reveal that he'd have cut his arm off to be able to achieve Lockridge's pinnacle of word-use that sweeps our minds away like a Pied Piper demanding we follow him.

I followed this Pied Piper gladly, into a nostalgic tour of magical long gone years and fascinating people departed forever. Moreover, we were never far from the realization that those during the Civil War were raised to "give their last full measure of devotion," to the highest cause, preservation of "The Last Best Hope of Earth." We need to be rededicated to that cause today.

At some places in Lockridge's monumental tribute to America, in the hands of this genius, the cumulative effect transcended words, as only music can do. He tugged me into a wonderful, tragi-comic trance-like dream of pure thought where still lived a world of America's heritage. Ross Lockridge undoubtedly fathered that elusive thing: - The Great American Novel.

I thought as I read a son's account of his father and his work on this remarkable book that its history of creation should remind us it's time to take a second look and face the truth that we were granted a short stay among us of a literary angel, who bequeathed us a treasury of jewel-like words and images beyond price.

I wrote in my review of Larry Lockridge's remembrance that I would review its inspiration, the book Raintree Country itself, when I had time. I added: "In any case, I want to record my discovery of the conundrum of the book, Raintree Country, a mysterious message buried in its maps that no one I have ever encountered had noticed." I did that. Contrary to Ross Lockridge's deliberately (?) misleading words, we could look for Raintree Country on the Map and it 'would' be there.

Finally, I must say that the movie, like most, was - in my opinion - the usual uncomprehending travesty of story mangling and miscasting. Only Flash Perkins was properly cast, in my opinion. I don't think the producers had any more idea of what they had grandly muffed than a baby has of the consequence of throwing its bottle out of the crib. Maybe someday an English production company of the caliber that gave us "I Claudius," and "Lily" and "The First Churchills," will redo this classic.

I'm able to find something I heartily disagree with in every childcare or child discipline book I read. Even in my favorites. But I thought my head was going to fall off I nodded so hard while reading this book. I used to hedge daily on discipline worrying I was "hurting" my kids too much when I had to enforce loss of privileges. This book made me see that all consequences are painful...they are supposed to be. But painful and harmful are not the same thing. Just because my child is temporarily unhappy, that doesn't mean she is permanently scarred. All growth is painful. The flip side to the advice is you should balance your enforcement of consequences with empathy, affection, and support. You are neither your child's enemy nor his friend. You are his parent.

I was able to immediately put the good advice to use right away and my family is so much more peaceful! Boundaries really are good for building character, increasing empathy, and as converse as it may sound, strengthening the relationship between you and your children. The authors are both psychotherapists and devout Christians. I thought the Christian bent might annoy me but the scriptures quoted were used sparingly and only enhanced the eloquence and relevance of the text.

I wholeheartedly recommend this book to friends and relatives, Christian and secular. Buy this book and you will walk around thinking "I know which boundaries HIS/HER parents didn't enforce as a child." What an enlightening book!

This is the book you wish your parents had! But you can start today, with your own children. The authors first Boundaries book is my "best" book. It helped me tremenoudly with my own life. And from quality people, here is another book to help you help your kids set the best boundaries for their own life. We can't to it for them, they will make their own mistakes. But we can show them what good decision-making does and allow them to have consequences for their decisions. I can't say enough about this book. I wish I had found it years ago when my oldest two sons were children. You will really equip yourself with this book to be a loving, effective parent.

This book has helped my husband and I to not only be on the same page with our dicipline methods but also to really focus on how our 3 kids behaviors right now in the present will affect their future when they are on their own. It has helped us to set boundaries for them and is also teaching our kids to learn to set firm boundaries on their own with their lives. I had yet to find a book on raising children that is so clear and effective and really guides you through how to be an effective parent for the good of your kids future. I also highly recommend the book "Raising Great Kids" which is by the same authors.

My daughter's preschool made this book required reading for the first parents' meeting. I liked it. It's quick and easy to read (something to consider if you have to address some discipline problems immediately!) MacKenzie clearly states his points, contrasts his recommendations with other methods that do not seem to be effective, and gives lots and lots of examples. These examples stuck in my head, and I was able to implement some of his suggestions immediately with my 4-year-old daughter.

Yet, as I read the book, I kept thinking, "He makes it sound so simple!" Any parent will tell you that disciplining children is not simple. And his methods don't always work. But I think this is a good starting place.

As the parent of two sons, 8 and 12, I have tried everything! This book is very clear and readable with lots of practical examples. Best of all, it puts the responsibility on the child--right where it belongs. Dr. MacKenzie communicates in a lighthearted and logical fashion. This book will begin making EVERYONE'S life easier within a week of starting to read it--it should be issued to parents at their childs birth! Easy to follow and use--I can't recommend it highly enough!

...reach for this book first. It is the perfect emergency handbook for out of control kids and their parents. With very little fanfare, MacKenzie shows you have to regain control over your children without screaming, threatening or inflicting bodily harm. He shows you how to set firm limits and let your children test those limits and learn your new boundaries.

The truly amazing thing about his method is, it works! It is humane, rationale, devoid of all the squishy politically correct nouveau-parenting verbiage, and smacks of common sense. I tried it on my kids, who are at times utterly impossible, and after about a week, they started listening to me the first time instead of the twentieth. This is the one that I am shoving under my hubby's nose to save him from his shouting matches with the kids. And when he's not reading it, I keep thumbing through it to remind myself of the things in it I need to remember. Bad parent habits are not easy to kick. Keep this book on your night-table, and take a dose of it every night at bedtime-- then watch your family's sanity grow.

I found this book very useful with my highly active, challenging three-year-old daughter. Before reading this book, it seemed like I had to yell before she paid any attention, and even then she usually didn't listen. This book helped me see that the messages I was giving my daughter were inconsistent and overly emotional. Now I can deal with her in a calmer, more effective way. Now I feel much happier with my disciplinary style, and I am getting much better results.
I prefered this book to some other discipline books I have read. It seemed to be more concrete and practical than the Dr. Sears book on discipline. I recently read 1-2-3 Magic, which has a similar theory to Setting Limits (use time-outs, be consistent, don't get emotional) but gives you just one technique and style for every child and every situation. The Setting Limits book gives you more choices and ideas.

I have a strong-willed child. This book has helped me realize that my kid is perfectly normal. That I can change the way we've been relating to each other and make both our lives better. I've been using the methods listed and have been yelling less, and getting upset less. My child is behaving better and is happier. He still tests but that's only to be expected. I would recommend this book to parents with any type of child - not just those with strong-willed children.

I bought this book after being fustrated with my very strong willed 20 month old. It's not really geared towards toddlers but it applies all the parenting and discipline principals you need to use it on a toddler. It teaches you what parenting style you are and how it will relate to your childs attitude and then how to adjust the two to work together. I truly think this book has saved my life and both my husband and my sanity. We implemented the time out's as the book explains and after 1 week we saw a huge difference in our son. We no longer needed to raise our voice or smack his bottom to get a response from him. He would tune us out if we didn't. After the first week of using these methods he reverted and tested us more but the book says this is normal and by the third week we were finally getting another turn around in his behavior and responses. He no longer kicked and punched or bit when he was having a tantrum and if we asked him to stop playing with something that was off limits he would weight the consequences and 50% of the time test us to see if we would follow through with the time out. After 8 weeks I am proud to say he is an angel child. Temper tantrums are almost non existent and if you ask him to stop doing something he stops because he knows that we will follow through with the consequence (ie. time out or taking something away from him.) I am now telling everyone I know about this book. This book is not just for strong willed children it would work on any child and the chapter on different parenting styles is the key. I learned I was actually fueling a lot of the conflicts with my son. It helped me to see that both my husband and I had as much changing to do as we expected from our son. I also like that you achieve this with no yelling and no hitting. It's all based on consisitency. We hope everyone has as much good luck as we have had with this book.